Whether in everyday chats, in playtime with the little ones or in deeper conversations, the way you communicate directly impacts the emotional wellbeing of all family members.

Listening and being heard

When we talk about effective communication, we’re not just referring to expressing yourself, but also to active listening. This is very important, because when a child feels their words are valued, it helps build self-confidence and healthy self-esteem. But this isn’t only for the youngest, it applies to adults too. By creating a respectful environment where everyone can express their thoughts and emotions, family bonds are strengthened.

It’s sometimes easy to fall into the routine of daily tasks and postpone important conversations. But if you make an effort to be present and set aside time to listen to your child or your partner, you can spot concerns before they turn into bigger problems.

Pay attention to non-verbal communication

Although words are important, what you don’t say often communicates the most. Non-verbal communication – body language, facial expressions or tone of voice – greatly influences how your child interprets what you say. If you notice your kid is worried or less willing to talk, observe their behaviour.

Sometimes a hug or a simple gesture of support can be as effective as a conversation. Teaching your child to interpret these signs not only strengthens your bond, but also gives them emotional tools to identify their own feelings.

Create spaces for dialogue

Some days it’s easy for family communication to be reduced to quick reminders and “do this, do that”. But effective communication requires time and dedication. Setting specific moments to talk can be very helpful, for example, after school or during dinner, when everyone is relaxed. This quality time doesn’t have to be long, but it should be a distraction-free space where everyone feels comfortable expressing themselves. You can use these moments to talk about how each family member’s day went, share something funny or simply listen to what your child wants to tell you.

Use positive language

The language you use at home has an important impact on children’s emotional wellbeing. Words have power, and what you say can influence how your children feel about themselves. Using positive language doesn’t mean avoiding problems or difficult emotions, but focusing on solutions and recognising effort.

For example, instead of merely correcting behaviour, you can highlight the effort your child made when trying to solve something. This helps them build resilience and self-confidence. Also, reminding them how much you love them and how important they are to you is essential for creating an emotionally safe environment.

If you’d like to learn more about how language influences children’s emotional wellbeing, you can download our guide “Mum, Dad, shall we talk?”.

Be a role model

Children learn more from what they see than from what they hear. That’s why being a model of effective communication is so important. If, as a parent, you practise what you preach, your children will learn how to communicate effectively. Speaking calmly, using respectful language and being transparent about your emotions gives them the tools to do the same.

And the example shouldn’t only be in interactions with them, but also with people outside the home. Children observe how you treat others and this teaches them the value of empathy and respect. For example, by resolving a conflict calmly and respectfully with your partner or friends, you show them how to handle disagreements positively.

4 tips to foster effective communication

If you feel communication at home could improve, here are some practical tips:

1. Ask open questions: instead of asking questions that only require short answers, invite your child to express themselves with prompts like “What was the best part of your day?” or “How did you feel when that happened?”.
2. Be patient: children – especially the youngest – may need time to process their emotions. Patience is key for them to open up and feel comfortable.
3. Use play: play is a powerful communication channel for children. Through play, they can express emotions naturally. Taking active part also helps you understand how they feel.
4. Use educational resources: if you feel you need more support, there are many tools to help you improve family communication. For example, you can read more on our blog:

• How does our upbringing shape us?
• The importance of an active family life
• Rewarding children for their grades
• Tips to help your children handle teasing

Fostering effective communication in the family is a long-term investment in everyone’s emotional wellbeing. It isn’t about perfect speeches, but about building – day by day – a space where each family member feels heard, understood and valued. In the end, a family that communicates well not only resolves conflicts better, but also strengthens bonds and creates an environment of trust and mutual support that lasts over time.